What Transformation Pics Don't Show

Do you dream of building a perfect body or getting to a perfect size or weight or fitness level so you’ll finally be happy and confident?


I used to.


I used to think that was the answer to liking myself, to being happy, more confident and at peace.


If I just lost "X" amount of weight, I'd be happy. If I could just run "X" amount of miles I'd be happy. If I could just lift "X" amount of weight, I'd be happy. If my butt was just a little bigger, I'd be happy. If my waist was only "X" inches, I'd be happy.


I’ve shared this pic often over the years but I don’t even like sharing before and afters anymore because I don’t want to perpetuate the notion that this equals happiness.


I literally look like two different people ...on the outside.


But they don’t show what’s on the inside -- it's the exact same person. The person on the left trying to hide her weight behind a kid & refusing to smile because she did NOT want her picture taken at that size was no less valuable than the person on the right in the slinky dress, holding trophies that told her she was the best. And the person on the right holding the trophies didn't like herself any more than the person on the left did.



They both hated themselves.


Neither of them thought they were worth anything.


The person on the left used food to numb her emotions and feelings of inadequacy... so did the person on the right. The only difference was the person on the left was pre-bulimic and the person on the right was in recovery -- but food still ruled her life and intensified her feelings of disappointment in herself.


Both of their lives were consumed with food, the scale, an abusive inner dialogue, unhappiness with their bodies, and deeply rooted feelings of inadequacy.


See, we think losing weight or transforming our body is the answer to fixing those things but it it doesn’t change any of it -- it only changes the package it comes in.


The other thing physical transformations don't show is that the results are not permanent. As soon as you stop doing the things that resulted in the transformation, the changes start becoming undone.


So we spend months or years chasing happiness through things that are often making us unhappy (like strict dieting or brutal exercise programs) only to have it all just disappear if we ever stop doing those things.


That's the amazing thing about doing the inner work to change our brains instead -- when we change our brains, it DOES last. Those results ARE permanent.



Now I look at both of those people and I don’t even recognize either of them anymore -- but I'm deeply grateful to them both because I wouldn't be where I am without them.

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Weight & food coach, speaker and podcaster, Roni Davis spent over two decades struggling with weight, food (mindless, emotional and binge eating), an eating disorder, depression, panic attacks, and an anxiety disorder. She's also been a nationally qualified champion figure athlete, written for bodybuilding websites, was featured in a national fitness magazine, by Bodybuilding.com and spent almost a decade helping people transform their bodies as an award-winning personal trainer and nutrition and wellness coach.

 

After over two decades of her own personal weight & food struggles and almost a decade in the weight loss/fitness industry, one thing became abundantly clear to her: our population isn’t struggling with weight loss or living healthier lives because they don’t know how or have enough different ways to lose fat fast. They’re struggling because the way our brains are wired makes none of it sustainable. 

 

So she left the fitness industry and bundled everything she learned from her own recovery, from her time as a trainer & nutrition & wellness coach with everything she learned in her mindfulness-based cognitive behavior coach training, to create Cognitive Eating.  This allows her to guide and support people to live healthier lives through behavior and habit modification at the brain level, where it counts and will stick because our brains control everything - our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and the unconscious habits and behavior that result from those things. She says, when we change those, everything changes - and it changes forever.

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NOTE: While counselors or therapists often use CBT to deal with mental illness or a patient’s mental/emotional conditions and/or processing trauma, MBCT & cognitive eating does not. My roll as a coach, in its most simple form, is to encourage, coach and/or act as a facilitator of a client’s self-reflection, decision making, planning for the future, and creating life changes. As an MBCT & cognitive eating coach, I am obligated to refer clients in need of mental or physical health therapy to an appropriate licensed professional.  

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